Not long ago we talked to you in Lifestyle about the characteristics of introverts, and today, we want to delve into the issue of shyness.You may ask yourself but it's not the same to be introverted than to be shy? Well, the answer is no.There are very clear differences between introverts and shy people who should be qualified in the first place.
Introverts do not have to be shy .They have adequate social skills to interact with the world, however, they prefer loneliness and individuality.They have a very deep inner world and generally prefer to control the moments in which they wish to interact.and those in which, they choose to integrate normally in certain groups, parties...etc.
Shy people already have a certain fear to certain social situations.Sometimes they feel anxious, since at the same time, they are aware of what and do not have adequate skills to relate to others.
Now let's look at 5 situations or typical dimensions with which shy people usually identify themselves.
1.The recurring phrase of our parents..."It is very shy"
It is possible that you still did not know anything about shyness or extroversion.However, at home, your mother or father already presented you to The world with that little "is that it is very shy". When a child came to you to kiss or greet you, and you shunned any contact, immediately the famous phrase appeared.
Gradually, and already in school contexts, this expression was appearing in the mouth of others.It is very possible that your teacher once said that "Do not be shy and go to the board" or "Do not be shy and read aloud ».
2.The shy and their friends, islands of privacy and protection
Who said that the shy people are doomed to be alone? At all, a very special feature of shy people is that when they establish a friendship with someone (they are never more than 1 or 3), a very intimate link is usually created where to find that refuge before the world, that circle where share confidences and adventures.
When these friendships are established, sometimes they themselves generate a clear differentiation between them and the rest of the world.They are very aware of their problems when developing their social skills, but having these friendships gives them confidence, and some security.
3.Those situations so distressing...
That's right.Every shy person develops their own strategies Survival when you face a situation that for him or her, generates great anxiety: approaching a desc known to attract you to start a conversation, prepare an exhibition in class, go to a job interview, ask something in a store or in a public body...
The usual thing is to follow a prepared script.Think mentally of everything we can say, what they will answer...We make a mental map to control everything that unexpectedly causes us restlessness or fear.You may repeat mentally phrases that you hope to say out loud.then, obviously, you forget...
4.What if you say so? And if I leave it for tomorrow?
Every shy person usually has the help of a good friend who speaks for him.He is that spontaneous savior who solves small problems, who asks for them when the fear paralyzes them, and that many times puts voice to their thoughts.
Shyness also creates indecision, which is why they often find it hard to get out of their comfort zone."I have to ask this person to see if he leaves me his science job", "I have to go to that office to ask for the duplication of such paper..." I better do it tomorrow!
5.Shyness is not a defect!
Being shy is not a disease, not a defect, or anything that should obsess you.Think of it as an attitude towards life that will always accompany you, you will always be that person who enters a party with a warm smile on your face hoping that nobody bothers you too much.You may at first glance seem unfriendly or cold, but you know very well that when someone knows you in depth recognize that you are very special and even really original.
Now, never let your shyness cut your wings and prevent you from doing things that you would really like to undertake.If you like someone, talk to them, The worst thing that can happen is that you both laugh at the same time.Don't worry if the only thing that comes out of your mouth is nonsense or broken words.Today's dare will be an achievement and will help you feel more secure tomorrow.
Shyness is a way of developing and even defending against life, as long as you don't fall at the extremes, everything will be fine.Look for situations where you feel comfortable and learn to survive with her to be happy.
If you liked this article, also discover the 8 personality types according to Carl Gustav Jung.
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