Use the FORD method to be a great conversationalist «Family. Occupation…"

Do you know the term elevator conversation? They are those banal conversations, short and seemingly without truly relevant content.They receive this name because they almost always occur inside an elevator whose journey is so short, that it does not lead to deeper conversations.In the next Lifestyle article we will explain the FORD method which is an infallible method to solve these uncomfortable moments when you should start a conversation with a group of strangers but you don't know very well how. This method will help you to have a mental guide to the topics you can go out to start a fluid dialogue .

FORD method to avoid uncomfortable silences

It must be said that this method is very simple because you only have to memorize these four letters FORD .Each one of them corresponds to a general topic on which to ask questions to your interlocutor.But the FORD method not only tries to ask questions without tone or are, but goes beyond.

Use the FORD method to be a great conversationalist «Family. Occupation…

A study conducted in 2017 and published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology determined that when the subjects under study asked more questions to their partners, they found them more nice than those who did not ask so many questions.In that same study, a fast dating scenario was analyzed and it could be concluded that people who made a greater number of follow-up questions ended up having a better chance of getting a second date.This is very simple: The human being by nature likes to talk about himself .When he is in front of an individual who asks questions about his family, his work, his interests...and really Pay attention to your answers, feel heard and get the impression that the other person is interested in hearing your story, so your attitude towards it is very positive.

How does the FORD method work?

As we have commented to later, the method is about remembering 4 acronyms of 4 important topics to start a conversation on.What are those topics?

Family F : Be interested in the family of The person with whom you are trying to engage in conversation will say many good things about you; you are familiar, affectionate...Ask simple things like: Do you have siblings? How many are you at home? Do you often visit your parents?

O Occupation : It's an important issue because it shows that you want to know not only the present of the person you're talking to, but also In addition to that, you would be surprised to know how many conversations that start casually, end up becoming serious conversations, in this case, even in business.

Recreation R : We all like to talk about our hobbies, what we do for fun.You can get surprised at how many things in common you can find with the person you are talking to when you get to this point and who knows, you can even end up planning your next vacations with him or her.

D of Dreams : «Dreams».This point is very funny and revealing because if you ask the other person something like: Have you thought about dedicating yourself to That, how much you like and have fun, in a professional way? At that time you may become a patron for him, someone who gives the answers to his most intimate questions.You may suddenly be a person who puts voice to his thoughts and opens the possibility of reaching his dreams.

Anyway, the FORD method is not that simple.It is not enough to ask questions without a tone or are.This "guide" of questions is only for guidance to have a small guideline and know where to start.The really important thing about this FORD method is knowing how to listen to the other person's answers.If you know how to listen and show really interest, one question will take you to the other and another and so on until you surprise yourself having a deep conversation with someone which, just a few minutes ago, was a total stranger to you.

Use the FORD method to be a great conversationalist «Family. Occupation…

Now we it's our turn to ask you...How have you been to start conversations with strangers? Do you have the ease of speech or do you find it difficult to start a conversation? If you are one of those who find it difficult to start a conversation with a group of people you do not know, then we hope that this FORD method will be of great help to you.If you are one of those who immediately have a topic of conversation and do not usually suffer uncomfortable silences, you also We recommend that you try to use this method sometime.As we mentioned, people who ask personal questions to show interest in their interlocutor usually have greater acceptance than those who simply engage in vain conversations.So, do you dare to try it in your next chance? We hope that if so, share your experience with us, we will be happy to read you!

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