The scientific keys to be forgiven

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Apparently being forgiven is not a question that only involves to emotions and feelings, but it is also a scientific issue.A recent study by the Fisher College of Business of the Ohio State University in the United States revealed what are the scientific keys that can help you get the much desired sorry.

The scientific keys to be forgiven

A study published in the specialized journal Negotiation and Conflict Management Research revealed which are the scientific keys to forgiveness.In this sense, the research leader and professor emerged in human resources, Roy Lewicki , explains:

«Forgiveness works, and it is more effective the more of these six elements it contains »

1.Express true regret

The researchers explain that before asking for forgiveness it is necessary to feel it inside us , since it is the only way to express it with true sincerity.

The scientific keys to be forgiven

To express regret is It is necessary to set aside the prejudice that asking for forgiveness in a symbol of weakness.The key is to really regret it.

2.The explanation

The Affected person is full of questions and the only way to relieve their anxiety is to explain the reasons that led you to commit the damage.The researchers point out that the best way to do it is literally to face.

In others words, the apologies for messages or calls are not as effective as those given in person , seeing the affected person directly in the eyes and explaining in detail what happened.

3.Take responsibility

According to investigators taking responsibility for what happened is the most important part of the apology.Lewicki points out the following:

«Our investigations showed that the fundamental thing was the recognition of the authorship , admit that you were wrong»

4.Authentic repentance

The person to whom you apologize should feel that your regret and regret is authentic , otherwise the apology will not be possible.

The scientific keys to be forgiven

This aspect is even more important if the affected one is someone with whom you have a close and personal relationship, such as friends, couple and family.A phrase expressed by the English painter William Blake (1757-1827) perfectly explains this point:

« It is easier to forgive an enemy than a friend »

5.Words are not enough

Words are very nice but when trust is broken there must be something else to repair it.this point there must be a repair offer , something in which you commit and subsequently comply.

6.Ask for forgiveness

Finally, expressing the word sorry is one of the key points of this whole process, although this word has probably already emerged at the previous points of the conversation.

What do you think about these elements? Do you think they are the key to being forgiven?

If you liked this topic, we invite you to read more about: 5 basic rules of life that we should keep in mind

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