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12 keys to forget someone special and move on

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Find love and lose it...the simple phrase carries an emotional burden too heavy and painful.Because Pablo Neruda said it well: Love is so short , and forgetting is so .And partly because, the process of Forgetting someone special and moving on becomes complex because we refuse to undo the mind of what keeps us clinging to the past.

But we have hopeful news! If you do not stop thinking about the person in question, preventing you from taking steps forward, these 12 keys inspired by the book The Last Best Cure , by Donna Jackson Nakazawa, will be very useful to see the distress with other eyes, and with this, heal the heart.

12 keys to forget someone special and move on

1.Obsessing to find guilty drives you away from healing

As part of the duel, it is common that in the course of the love trance we feel the need to carry the responsibility of someone that everything is over, either blaming ourselves, him or her.

But, what do we gain with this? Absolutely nothing! just overwhelm us by reproducing again and again details of the past that inflict pain on us.Also, in most cases of relationships that come to an end, the fault is not one but two -although Some have it to a greater degree than others-.

2.Don't try to understand the actions of others

There is no one who knows us better than...ourselves.So, does it make sense? that you waste your energy seeking to understand the actions of others? Whatever the conclusion you reach, it may not be entirely correct, so it won't be worth wasting time trying to join pieces that may not fit , because the truth lies in the Mind of the other.

12 keys to forget someone special and move on

3.Front your own problems first

Norman Fischer, a Buddhist meditation teacher who inspired Jackson in his book, suggests that, the biggest problem we face is our own anger. Anger blinds us , it prevents us from thinking and reacting in a rational and coherent way.Proceed from rejection, because we lost love or received damage, this mood is a real problem when that you have to be careful, whether taking time to meditate, breathe fresh air, exercise or reflect.

4.Accept that you cannot change the past

No human being or has the ability to change what happened in the past, however much we want it. What happened is immutable and there is nothing we can do about it.Therefore, it is not healthy to fall into the uneasiness to think that it could have been done differently to avoid certain outcomes.

5.Occupy the mind with different things

You can't forget someone and move on if that person is what unique in what you can think of. Keeping your mind busy on less intricate matters has always been one of the most beneficial strategies for breathing your soul. Get healthy hobbies or distractions that load your mind with more refreshing information.Also also imagine places that fill you with calm to divert those thoughts.

12 keys to forget someone special and move on

6.« Don't try to get anyone out from your heart, not even to you »

Forgetting someone does not mean that you will disappear that person from your memory, that you will tear it out of your heart and pretend that you never existed.and invalides.It is what Tara Brach, psychologist, author and meditation teacher suggests in such wise reflection.

7."Try not to fall into another person's mental states"

Sylvia says it Boorstein, and it translates into: don't let the toxicity of others hinder your process.And it's not about being selfish, it's self-respect because, if you don't take care of yourself, who else will do it?

8.Transform the experience into a learning opportunity

The usual thing is that we focus on the most painful emotions when we go through these sets, but think about it, you are facing your face to face emotions , somehow you are doing introspective work...why not take advantage of our moments of vulnerability to get to know ourselves better? It's a great learning opportunity that, by conducting it in a positive way, will help us find growth and improvement.

9.Excuse me and forgive

According to Jack Kornfield , Buddhist psychologist, " it is not necessary to be loyal to your suffering.Focusing on the trauma of 'what happened to me.' Yes, it happened.Yes, it was horrible.But is it what defines you? Forgiveness is not something that is done only by the other person.We forgive so that we can live free from the acute pain that leads to clinging to the past .”In short: forgiveness heals.

10.Wishing goodness

Wanda Lasseter-Lundy, Intuitive Medical Healer, recommends that imagine that you send a beautiful ball of white light and that you enter who hurt you or who didn't You can forget it.Make all the light envelop you, until you manage to frighten the anger or pain and thus get some calm inside.It is a small therapy to scare away harmful emotions.

12 keys to forget someone special and move on

11.Take 90 seconds to change your mood

The neuropsychiatrist Dan Siegel, ensures that it takes about 90 seconds to change the mood.Wash your mind with deep breaths, from the inside out, during e period of time.It will serve to break the pattern of overwhelming thoughts , restoring yourself with other bearable ones.

12.“When you are angry, the mind is wrinkled”

Donna Jackson took this teaching from Sylvia Boorstein for her book, with which you will surely agree: you cannot think clearly if it is full of anger. Anger causes wrinkles in the mind that prevents us from being productive or reflective.When acting or thinking with this type of emotion, nothing good could result from it.If you want to forget someone and move on, work on handling resentment and anger to lead better your thoughts in favor of moving on.

Have you experienced those loves that seem impossible to forget? What a gift many nights awake and tears when they are gone! But putting into practice the keys to forget someone, inspired by the wisdom of Buddhist experts who have mention in Jackson's book, it is possible to overcome old loves and move on without leaving "withered" in the attempt.

We recommend you read: The benefits of meditation for the brain.It is proven that meditation heals the soul, heart and also your brain.

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