The formula that will always do you a favor

There are phrases that change everything.From a "Hello" with a comma in the wrong place to a "I love you" without the proper intonation can become true social suicides, so the words matter and what matters It is said.One of the situations in which we most need these tools, called social skills, is when we want to do us a favor .But, did you know that a formula has been discovered recently (almost) magic to get others to help us? We tell you all about this sociological and linguistic experiment.

The formula that will always do you a favor

The communication researcher Christopher Carpenter was who published his analysis of this curious fact in 2013.In it, a very simple assumption was proposed.With the help of two of his companions, he studied in a shopping center .The procedure was very simple.

They just had to approach a person who was alone in the supermarket and ask them the following:

«Excuse me, would it matter to give me some coins that I am missing for the AUTObUs, please? «

Saying this, it seems that we all know the answer but the researchers added a phrase that turned out to be magic:

«...but, of course, feel free to do it or not ( but you are free to accept or to refuse ) »

Maybe in Spanish it would be resolved with something similar to "don't feel obligated" .The result was a success.

But, what is the reason why you will get them to do you a favor just saying "feel free to reject it or accept it"?

This experiment that took place in France and then developed in other cities around the world, served to better understand the human behavior patterns.

As Carpenter assured, it was not some words or others that had achieved the desired effect of obtaining what was requested, but the subjects had responded positively because they them He had given option, a way out to reject or accept "freely" (obviously, they were not entirely free if the researchers were using that trick to accept the request for help).

The formula that will always do you a favor

So that, you know, the next time you want them to do you a favor, don't stop offering your interlocutor a way out, a chance to say "no". If you do, it's very likely never Listen to this word again.

Do you think that learning to get what you want in this way is manipulation or that it is simply to improve social skills? Find out if this is one of the 10 things of your childhood that has an effect on your achievements as an adult.You will be surprised!

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