Toxic parents... We believe it, not this type of education, upbringing and generational relationship is more common than we think .It is common to talk about "toxic mothers" almost always, but parents can also exercise this influence through behaviors where day after day, their children's personal growth is banned through prohibitions and even through authoritarianism.
Let's look at it in more detail, since the curious thing In these cases, it takes a little while to realize that what you live or have lived is a type of education based on overprotection, where love is confused with possession, and therefore in unhappiness of children.
Characteristics of toxic parents
Toxic education occurs in all families, but especially in those in more developed countries , where, in some way, the entry of children to that social independence demanded by the population is prevented or delayed Dernity.On occasion, authentic "bubble children" are given to the world who fear being open to society, to be autonomous and to enjoy their identities, their personal fullness.

- Toxic parents usually have established and thought in advance what will be the future of their children .It is common to guide their children in what they themselves failed, or that pleases them, regardless of the children's personal choices.
- Sometimes, even though the children get to do what they wanted for them, such as studying a certain career, they are rarely pleased. « There is always something that fails », it is a way to keep the link, to continue« enslaving »your children to make them happy.Something that almost never happens.
- Any act of ind ependencia, they see him with a bad eye s.A weekend outing, signing up for an extracurricular activity, taking a trip… They see everything in a negative way because it means leaving the comfort zone of “their area of power and dominance ».
- Something that see with distaste is the fact that children have a partner .It is a direct way to break the link with toxic parents, something they see with discomfort and stress.They will always find some defect and try to convince us that they are not suitable for us.

- Toxic parents exert their power in various ways.They can for example use the role of victims, making us feel guilty for anything: for leaving home, for studying this and not the other, for doing that...Somehow, the only way to be well with them is giving in everything.By their side.
- The other way they can exercise control over children is through blackmail or authoritarianism.In this case needs of children are secondary , you should always do what the father or mother indicates.
- Having a voice of your own, having likes or values different from our parents, it is in these cases something very negative.Toxicity requires that the children, be those satellites that revolve exclusively around the parents, there where there should be no variation.

If we continue« in the orbits »of toxic parents, life can become an abyss of insecurity and conflicting feelings.We feel guilty for doing things we want and we are always afraid of contradicting them or make them angry.However, we must always remember that authentic life happens beyond the comfort zone .People need to have our identity and for that, no one will be selfish to prioritize, defend themselves and find their own happiness beyond toxic parents.
And now tell us... Do you know any cases like that? Do you have a toxic father or mother?
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