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Improve your emotional intelligence | 3 Tricks to achieve it

Lately there is a lot of talk about emotional intelligence and how to improve it but you should know that improving your emotional intelligence does not mean that it helps you pass all the exams you have from now on, but what you will do will become a functional, comprehensive and well-adapted adult.

Do you want to know why it is important to improve your emotional intelligence?

Improve your emotional intelligence | 3 Tricks to achieve it

EI, as it is known, is the ability to identify and manage your own emotions and the emotions of others.Emotions are many and varied, so if all you know is "sad", "happy" and "angry" get ready because we bring you an intensive course on IE, where you will discover new sensations and you can put a name to many feelings.

What is emotional intelligence?

EI is the sister undervalued and marginalized, and poorly understood, of the IC (intellectual quotient).Until recently, the CI eclipsed any other type of intelligence and it was understood that this was the only intelligence with value, nothing could be further from reality.to improve your emotional intelligence.

Actually, today, EI is one of the skills that helps faster and faster growth at work.Not surprisingly, Human Resources managers They value it more than the CI.And in 2020 it is estimated that it will be one of the 10 best job skills.

But, what is the advantage of having a staff with high IE in your company? People with high EI understand and sympathize better with others, impacting on making them better people, they are better for teamwork and are usually much more thoughtful than average, so improving your emotional intelligence can help you in your work.

Knowing all that, it is logical to think that improving your emotional intelligence is something that suits you, even if it means leaving your comfort zone.

Let's see what emotional intelligence consists of

Until recently, it was believed that any emotion could be "classified" into one of the 6 large groups of emotions; happiness, sadness, anger, surprise, fear and disgust.

Something that is quite poor according to a study conducted in 2017 by researchers at the University of California at Berkeley.They identified 27 different emotions, instead of 6 basic.Those emotions are: fun, awkwardness, adoration, admiration, joy, awe, longing, aesthetic appreciation, calm, entry, nostalgia, confusion, anxiety, fear, horror, disgust, sexual desire, romance, anger, pain, sadness , surprise, relief, emotion, interest, satisfaction and boredom.How about? If you think about the movie Del Reves now, it seems that it fell short, right?

Now it may seem easier to understand the meaning of emotional intelligence and how it can help us grow as people.In what way can we improve your emotional intelligence? According to Lisa Barrett, a neuroscientist and psychologist, there are three steps so you can increase your IE and explain it in her book: How emotions are made: the secret life of the brain.Here are some of the more important data.

Recognize a wide range of emotions. This is something Barrett calls "emotional granularity." If all you are able to identify is "happy" and "sad," all you will be able to feel will be happiness or sadness.Once you identify those 27 emotions that we talked about, you will begin to explore the granularity of your feelings.In Barrett's words, "your brain would have many more options to predict, categorize and perceive emotion, providing you with the tools for more flexible and functional responses." Learn new words for specific emotions. Did you know that Norwegians have a word for the intense joy of falling in love? It is the term "forelsket".It is not about inventing words because yes, but about differentiating feelings.As an example, would you equate the feelings of "repenting" with "heart pain"? Surely not.If you are clear that it is not the same feeling, why do we both include them under "sadness"? Their differences and nuances should be respected.So once you learn new words to define specific emotions, you can continue to expand that emotional granulity.

Barrett writes: “You probably never thought of learning words as a path to greater health Emotional.Words increase your concepts, concepts drive your predictions, predictions regulate the sensations of your body and your body, in short, it determines how you will feel.So, the wider your vocabulary, the more accurately your brain predictor can calibrate your feelings and understand what your needs are.In fact, people who exhibit greater emotional granularity go to the doctor less frequently, and spend less days hospitalized for illness."

Create new emotions. EI is not a closed science.That means that if you don’t find a specific word to describe a feeling, you can invent it, that will help you make it real and classify it, which will help expand your emotional granulity again, and we've talked about how important that is.

Improve your emotional intelligence | 3 Tricks to achieve it

The really important thing is to learn to listen to yourself, there is no dictionary more extensive than your own body.

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